5:03 p.m. ||October 08, 2004
Subtle Sexaul Harassment
I�ve been sexually harassed before. I don�t know if this quite qualifies but it has left me feeling very uncomfortable. It all started on Monday. I received the first email- nothing raunchy or sexual but weird all the same. Let me back up. I�ve known (seen around) this guy for almost 2 years at work and I�ve always liked him fine. I do not talk to him other than a hello or how�s the weather. Sometimes I see him a few times a day because we�re both smokers and to go outside to smoke he has to pass by my desk. On Monday he walked by and said hello, nothing weird about that and then said my tag was sticking out of my shirt. So I said oh thanks. So on Tuesday he sends me an email saying how he likes to say good morning to me and he hoped he didn�t mind that he told me my tag was out of my shirt. My reaction was �what the hell, why are you even emailing me?� So I just made a joke and said thank you for telling me otherwise so and so would have teased me about it. Then he writes back that I should keep smiling because it looks so good on me. I did not respond to that email. I tried to avoid him the rest of the day. Once when he was going out for a cigarette he feigned that he lost his lighter and asked if he could use mine. I figured he must get the hint and did not hear anything else until today. I saw him around eight and politely said hello, when I got back to my desk he had sent me another email. This one just said �sorry I missed saying good morning yesterday. Happy Friday. Are you working Monday� So I responded casually and he send another email asking if I minded the notes (emails). I said they made me feel a bit uncomfortable. He then send back an email saying he was sorry and he wouldn�t bother me. I avoided him the rest of the day. Honestly I don�t know where the hell this came from. This man is in a very high position, he�s about 45 and he�s married. I know he�s not just sending emails to chat. The only thing I can think of is he saw one of my old personal ads and is now intrigued. This is just too weird. I don�t want to cause a scene or call attention to myself but I hope he leaves me alone. The only person I want any kind of sexual attention from is D. Of course I don�t think I�ll even see him this weekend which really sucks. Thursday he was going to come over but did not; it was just as well because I am getting a cold and felt like crap. Tonight he is playing poker with the boys and tomorrow he�s going to a Red Sox game. But if the Red Sox win tonight there will be no game tomorrow and in that case we�ll get together. Who knows? I would really like to see him and would think he would feel the same but I�m sick of trying to understand men. He did invite me to a wedding next weekend, so those are points in his favor. Right now it feels like my head is in a vise and someone�s twisting it. I hate getting sick.
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